ACTING HONESTLY How many times have you done something out of obligation? Though exhausted, you attend a party because you would feel guilty if you didn't don't show up? You feel like you must call someone back because they keep reaching out to you? You continue training in a certain modality because you have for years and don't want to lose your edge?
I used to act on what "I should" do. I attended the numerous parties. I returned everyone's requests. I continued pushing myself to train in certain areas just to keep up. My calendar was filled almost every moment of the day.
Exhausted around the end of 2015, I took a new approach in January: cease planning all extra-curricular engagements (those outside of business).
The results have been truly liberating as the time and space allows for greater creativity, spontaneity, and opportunity that is more closely aligned with highest self. Superfluous connections dwindle. The quality of time with people heightens. Stress decreases. Life is peaceful, calm, joyful, and free. Enjoyment is in the present moment. Things happen at the most perfect and opportune times and are not forced. People with whom I truly connect understand and share a similar outlook.
REFINING INTENTIONS As the person on the other end, don't you want to receive someone's presence, words, gifts, or advice with only the purest intention(s)? Examples of pure intentions: empowering someone because you truly want to see him or her succeed, attending a social gathering because you one hundred percent want to be there, spending time with someone because you love his or her presence and feel energized afterwards, taking part in an activity because you love it, working in a certain field for which you are passionate.
Examples of impure intentions: helping someone in a way that weakens their own power (enabling), doing things for recognition (ego), attending an event because "you should," sacrificing your well-being by putting yourself in the presence of negative, energy draining individuals, participating in activities because in theory they may be "good for you," working in a field because it seems practical.
ADVICE Oftentimes you are in such a habit, you may not even recognize the heart of your intention anymore. Take a step back. Meditate. Get to the root of why you do the things you do. Ultimately you do not serve others if your intentions are impure. Acting and speaking your inner truth allows energy to flow freely. Internal and external blockages and boundaries dissolve. You can then start to function as a sparkling, clean diamond of truth to best serve yourself and others.