Have you ever fallen into the grass is greener trap? In other words, what is now is not perfect? Things could be better? Longing for something different than who you currently are, what you do, or what you have? This could be the constant desire for a different home, a better job, a new space, more money, optimal health, a more ideal body, the perfect romantic partner, a balanced world, peace on earth, and the list continues. Do you often manifest what you desire and then more desires arise? Have you practiced the affirmation “Everything is perfect exactly how it is” but not fully understood or resonated with the meaning?
If you somewhat relate to any of the above, I want to share an experience that resulted in a true felt knowing that everything IS perfect for the moment and that the grass is not greener.
For the past three to four years around December, a burning desire for change in the work and home spheres bubbled up - the need for a new job and a peaceful living space in majestic nature with a garden, aerial playground, light furniture, zen vibes. I would go on the hunt - throughout Los Angeles and surrounding areas, throw my fishing line out to contacts in Arizona, Oregon, New York, Florida looking for a bite.
All searches ended in the same conclusion - nothing was better than where I was. BUT I wanted change! I felt stuck and thought a change of scenery would spice things up. Where world travel used to be an outlet for this seeking energy, it was now funneling into the home and work realms.
I have lived in the same place for nine years and upon returning home from my pole event at the beginning of March received a notice that I would have to resign a lease. Reactionary to the idea of not having the flexibility and freedom of month to month, I immediately put in my 30 days notice.
Though I didn’t feel like going on the hunt again, I opened up fully and widely to magnetize the perfect space within 30 days. At 29 days it still did not appear. I spoke with my friend on the phone and she was like, “Linds! You have to decide. It will take more than a day to move!”
Even a day before the deadline I was not sure. Where was the opportunity? Force, action nor search worked previously and opening up magnetic channels to receive wasn’t working either. Sheesh! In meditation the night before I had to sign, the message hit loud and clear: “this is exactly where you are supposed to be at this time and NOTHING IS BETTER. The grass is not greener somewhere else.”
It’s funny because my Dad recently got me cat grass, and we were going back and forth with grass texts. The morning of signing day (had to wait until the end of mercury retrograde), the building was literally laying down brand new green turf grass. The grass literally was the greenest it could be! Later that day when meditating in my place, I saw everything turn to gold. Physically the space and objects were the same, yet their energy and essence were different - gold! Seeing the gold right before my eyes shifted perspective.
Though this example is with the home, the lesson could apply to anything - people, places, things, and experiences. Though we may know in theory that the grass is not greener and that everything is perfect for the moment in which it is experienced, it is only until we have the direct experience that we can feel and know truth in a new way. This is why experience oftentimes in the form of challenge has so much value. We can read books for days, study philosophy, memorize scripture, but until we have the experience, we have not truly felt and integrated it into our being. I remember this happened to me with Emerson and Thoreau. I could not get enough of their philosophy, but it was only until living atop the Pyrenees in France that I felt their words moving like electricity through my body and blood.
I am a big believer in carrying a diverse tool belt of practices to have the means to employ different tools at different times. To best integrate this particular experience, the practices of yoga and meditation have been most helpful. Truly focusing on and being in the physical body, yet another type of “home” or part of our foundation (physical matter, home, materials), and going inward to the true self recognizing that our divine light essence, God, Source, other words you may call this, is really the only thing eternal. All else - home, objects, the physical body, money, jobs, physical relationships are here of course but temporary. When the inner is cultivated, strengthened so that we can be, shine, and express our light and essence, the external conditions become less significant. Therefore, why not put time, energy, practice into that which is everlasting rather than that which is fleeting?
True acceptance of exactly what is and where we are in life, I now know to be the most joyful and fulfilling experience we can have. This acceptance of everything as it is and the experience of our inner light help break the constant chain of suffering, desire after desire, the belief that there is something more or better out there.
This state of being does not depend on socio-economic status, how many friends we have, our privileges or any of that. Acceptance is how we feel on the inside and is an aspect of the relationship we have with ourselves and everything else. It is from this place of knowledge of inner self, acceptance of self, body, mind, home, people, scenarios, and conditions that we can truly establish a pure and solid foundation upon which to build and act.
Imagine if you start something yet you don’t fully accept your body or you want to build up your work but you are not satisfied with the place you call home? Results are most definitely affected. How can a tree fully grow, bloom, and blossom in its highest form if the foundation is rocky and unstable? It can’t. Therefore 1. recognition of our inner light 2. full acceptance of our root center (family, home, ancestry, physical body, and material world) provides a solid base from which we can build using creativity, action, heart, words, logic, intuition, and divine connection. For those of us who like to work from the top down, sometimes it’s useful to check in with the kingdom, the root, the world of matter, and work on the bottom and from the bottom. Root to rise!
And don’t fear! Acceptance by no means equals apathy, having no motivation for progress, or agreeing with the state of things. Rather, what ensues are the effects of true acceptance which are updates, changes, and evolution. Just like the ability to dwell in a theta state comes as a result of decades of yoga asana practice, we don’t practice change. Change results after we accept and act from a place of acceptance. True acceptance then integrates with practice over time and leads to desired change.
I hope this post helps shed some light. Here are some topics that may be helpful for journaling: In what areas of life do you want to experience change? What is blocking you from truly accepting things as they are? Practice movement, breath control, meditation, reflection, prayer, chant, and play to help. Insights and experiences will arise with practice and observation over time.